Anonymous asked: So I met a girl through a friend of mine and we have a lot in common and I think she's really cute and really awesome. Well, when I met her I developed a minor crush on her but she had a girlfriend then. Now, her girlfriend broke up with her and I find my crush on her growing stronger, but she's most certainly not over her girlfriend. Aside from any romantic interests, I sort of just want to get to know her as a friend and be there for her right now, but I have no idea what to do. Help?
That sounds like a good idea… on the surface. If you two become friends and you find out all these heartbreaking details of their split you’re now there for the rants and the tears. Not to mention now you may feel the need to compete with the ex, be better than her, show this girl how much better you are or even end up jealous. In reality you don’t have to do these things. If you do want to get to know her on more of a romantic level I’d step back, let her talk to her close friends about her failed relationship and heal herself. But do stay in touch as much as you can, be friendly and perhaps when she’s ready ask her out. Of course you won’t really know when she’s ready as it takes different time periods for each person to get over a relationship. So bide your time, get to know her and hopefully you’ll still be interested in dating her… if not, you have a friend!
