Anonymous asked: I've been with my girlfriend 9 months, and we're in a ldr. When we first started talking, we both thought we were bi. I quickly figured out that I was not, at all, and was really a lesbian, and shortly after she told me the same. But in arguments afterwards she said she told me before she was sure, that she felt pressured to "decide" so now I'm always doubting and always jealous. I love her, and I know it's terrible that it bothers me at all. I guess, how can I get over it? I feel bad.
So she doesn’t want to label herself as a lesbian because she’s not quite sure yet? I think that’s okay. Just because you’ve accepted yourself and are happy with who you are (only assuming here) doesn’t mean she will automatically feel the same way.
If she is happy in the relationship and so are you I think I would leave it as is. But if this is something that really bothers you take some time to figure why that is. If it’s a jealousy issue, work on that. Sometimes in relationships we project our fears outward instead of working on them.
Long distance relationships are hard! There is no doubt about that. However when their is doubt about the relationship it gets so much harder. The (very) important thing is to be open and communicate with each other.
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